Rules of Life by R.Templar

Rule of Life 3. ACCEPT WHAT IS DONE IS DONE.

People make mistakes. Sometimes very serious ones. As often as not, the mistakes aren’t deliberate or personal. Sometimes people just don’t know what they are doing. This means that if, in the past, people have behaved badly toward –по отношению к— you, it wasn’t necessarily because they meant to be horrid, but because they were as naive, as foolish, as human as the rest of us. They made mistakes in the way they brought you up or finished a relationship with you or whatever, not because they wanted to do it that way, but because they didn’t know any different.

If you do something that is deliberate, you planned or decided to do it beforehand, and so it happens on purpose rather than by chance.   Witnesses say the firing was deliberate and sustained —продолжительный. = intentionalIf you say that someone meant to do something, you are saying that they did it deliberately.   I didn’t mean to hurt you…      I can see why you believed my letters were threatening but I never meant them to be.    = intendIf you describe something as horrid, you mean that it is very unpleasant indeed. (INFORMAL) What a horrid smell!   = horrible

If you want to, you can let go of any feelings of resentment, of regret, of anger. You can accept that you are a fabulous human being because of all the bad things that have happened to you, not in spite of them. Don’t use the labels «good» and «bad.» Let them go, embrace them as character forming, and in general as positive rather than negative.

If you embrace someone, you put your arms around them and hold them tightly, usually in order to show your love or affection for them.If you embrace a change, political system, or idea, you accept it and start supporting it or believing in it. (FORMAL)    He embraces the new information age…   The new rules have been embraced by government watchdog organizations.If something embraces a group of people, things, or ideas, it includes them in a larger group or category. (FORMAL)    …a theory that would embrace the whole field of human endeavour.You use rather than when you are contrasting two things or situations. Rather thanintroduces the thing or situation that is not true or that you do not want.     The problem was psychological rather than physiological…    When I’m going out in the evening I use the bike if I can rather than the car.